I call my parents on Sundays. Colorado is my home but I miss them living here. They are two of the best humans I know. They are wonderful, selfless, huge hearted people that have spent their lives working their asses off. Growing up they provided and cared unconditionally for my brother and I. We always felt loved and protected. When I called last Sunday something was up. Something wasn’t right. It’s their very nature to act the part of parent. They are always unified, collected, level headed and strong. They are two of the strongest people I know but there was something in their voices. It was the way they said they were, “doing okay.”
Levi and I recently visited New Hampshire and celebrated my Mom’s retirement with her friends. As we spoke on the phone she told me her friend’s husband had gone out for a 4-wheeler ride earlier that day. When her friend came home from a shopping trip she discovered the quad tipped by the side of the road. Her husband was no where to be seen. He had been picked up by someone driving by. Dead of a heart attack. 65 years old. I met him at my Mom’s party 4 weeks ago.
There is just not enough time in the day. We all feel this way. There are just so many priorities to attend to. In fact, let’s talk about the word priority.
noun \prī-ˈȯr-ə-tē, -ˈär-\: something that is more important than other things and that needs to be done or dealt with first
priorities : the things that someone cares about and thinks are important
Interesting. I can think of a lot someones’ and somethings I think are important. I am sure you can agree. NOW, is one of those things you?
We typically are a population that shutter to be called, “selfish.” It’s a word that conjures up feelings of indulgence, greed and feels downright dirty when it’s said to your face. BUT, a little selfishness also leads to a lot more selflessness. It leads to the ability to live the rest of your life without resentment or anger. What am I talking about?
You need to be a priority to you. It makes you a better spouse, daughter, son, sister, brother, mother, father; a better human. If you take care of you, harbor a little self indulgence and self love for your body, your health and your life you will in fact be better at doing all those things for others. It’s a fact. Now comes the drum kick. You ALWAYS have the time for something that is an ACTUAL priority to you. It’s a fact. If you do not have time for something it is not a priority to you. No matter how much you say it is. It’s not. No shit. You will always make time for the things that you care about and think are important. If to your core you believe they make you better, you will.
SO…that leaves a pretty pink elephant in the room. What are things you think are priorities that in fact you’ve done absolutely nothing about? Or even more than that, what are the things you have said you would like to do, will do, wish you could do and then never have done anything about?
I challenge each and every person who reads this to commit for one day to not saying a damn thing they won’t 100% back up. I think you’d be surprised at how often empty statements are put out into the atmosphere. I think you’d be surprised at how often you go ahead and say things you know you won’t follow through with even when you say them. Things like, ” We should really try and get together this weekend,” or, “I’ll totally be at Barbell’s for Boobs, ” or ” today is the day I’m starting over…again…” or “someday I’ll travel through Europe.” Stop wishing, hoping, dreaming and start PRIORITIZING.
Yes you work long hours. Yes it’s hard. Yes, you’re tired. Yes, money is tight. Yes, yes, yes. There is always an excuse if you’re looking for one. So stop. Stop with the excuses and the reasons and the run around. Say what you mean and mean what you say. Without hesitation. Plan on following up with every proclamation that leaves your lips with physical, behavioral steps towards that end outcome goal. Stop being half-hearted, meek, meager or chicken shit. Life is too damn short to wait around doing things that aren’t priorities to you. The Big Show can literally be done tomorrow. So what are you doing about it today?
Find the time for the things that matter.